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Sex, Love & Relationship Therapy · Sarasota, Florida

Live Your Greatest Love Story

Iam Wendy Haggerty, LMFT, an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist. I help individuals and couples do life and love in a more authentic way, restoring confidence, deepening connection, and reigniting intimacy, even when you feel stuck or at a crossroads.

This is a judgment-free, confidential space built on a simple belief: that sexual and relational wellness is a fundamental part of a full life, and deserves the same care and respect as any other part of your health.

Serving Sarasota in person, and clients throughout Florida and Connecticut online.

Free and confidential · a relaxed conversation to see if we’re a good fit · no pressure or obligation

Wendy Haggerty, AASECT-certified sex and relationship therapist in Sarasota
A safe, private space in Sarasota and online across Florida and Connecticut. A relaxed first conversation, entirely free and confidential.

Is this you?

Internal dialogues you may recognize.

The symptoms of disconnection often show up as boredom, anxiety, or physical avoidance. We work on the patterns underneath.

01

The Silent Distance

You love each other deeply, but the physical spark has become a source of unspoken tension, or quiet avoidance.

02

Identity in Flux

Navigating changes in desire, orientation, or body image that make connection feel like a foreign language.

03

The Weight of the Past

Old experiences color your present intimacy, creating barriers you can’t seem to talk your way through.

04

At a Crossroads

Questioning what’s next for the relationship, while still holding a flicker of hope for what could be restored.

A note from Wendy

Before we begin, a few honest words.

If you’ve found your way to this page, chances are something in your life feels tender right now: a distance between you and someone you love, a question about desire, a chapter that isn’t turning the way you thought it would. I want you to know that this takes courage, and you’re already doing the harder part.

My commitment to you is simple. What you bring into this room stays in this room. I will meet you without shame and without agenda. I won’t rush you toward a version of intimacy that isn’t yours, and I won’t pretend to have a script, because your relationship, your body, and your story are not a template.

I’ve spent my career studying the places where love and sexuality meet the real weight of being human: grief, identity, parenthood, illness, history, the quiet years. The work we do together is evidence-based, but the pace is yours. Progress here is measured in honesty, not in speed.

If any of this resonates, I’d be honored to talk. The first conversation is free, unhurried, and carries no obligation: just a chance to hear each other and see if the fit feels right.

With warmth, Wendy

“Working with Wendy didn’t just fix our marriage, it transformed the way we inhabit our own bodies. There is a profound stillness in her approach that lets the real work happen without the noise of shame.”
Private ClientCouples Work · Sarasota, Florida

How I can help

Ways We Can Work Together

There are many reasons people seek therapy. You may be navigating a challenge in your relationship, feeling disconnected from your desire, carrying the impact of past experiences, or simply wanting to understand yourself more deeply. I work with individuals and couples around the concerns that affect intimacy, sexuality, relationships, and emotional well-being. Explore the areas I work with, or reach out and we can find the right place to begin.

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My approach

Your Story. Your Goals. Your Path Forward.

No two people arrive in therapy for exactly the same reason, so no two therapeutic paths should look exactly alike.

My approach is integrative, relational, and deeply personalized. I take the time to understand not only what brings you to therapy, but also the patterns, experiences, beliefs, relationships, and life circumstances that have shaped where you are today.

I believe meaningful change often requires attention to the whole person. Our emotional lives are connected to our bodies, our relationships, our sense of meaning, and the ways we move through the world. When it feels appropriate for you, therapy may incorporate a holistic perspective that honors the mind, body, and spirit as interconnected parts of your well-being.

A central part of my work involves attachment and differentiation. We explore how your early experiences and current relationships may shape the ways you connect, protect yourself, communicate, pursue closeness, or create distance. At the same time, we work toward developing a stronger sense of self, so you can remain connected to the people you love without losing yourself in the relationship.

I also incorporate somatic and body-oriented approaches when they can support your healing and self-understanding. Our bodies often hold information that is difficult to access through words alone. Learning to notice sensations, emotions, impulses, and patterns of activation can help you develop greater awareness, regulation, and connection with yourself.

Together, we explore what is happening beneath the surface, identify what may be keeping you stuck, and create a path forward that feels both meaningful and practical. Therapy may involve developing new ways to communicate, understanding the patterns that shape your relationships, reconnecting with your body and desire, healing from past experiences, or learning to relate to yourself and others with greater compassion.

The goal is not simply to understand yourself better. It is to create meaningful change that you can actually feel in your relationships, your intimacy, your body, and your everyday life. Therapy is collaborative and paced with care. Some people seek focused support around a specific concern, while others benefit from a longer process of exploration and growth. Your path is yours to shape.

I draw from Attachment-Based Therapy, Differentiation-Based Therapy, Integrative Approach, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and somatic approaches, tailoring the work to you rather than fitting you into a particular model.

Certified & affiliated with

Credentials you can rely on.

AASECT certification is among the most rigorous credentials in the field of sex therapy, requiring extensive specialized training, supervised clinical experience, and ongoing continuing education.

American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy - Clinical FellowAmerican Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists - Certified Sex Therapist & SupervisorModern Sex Therapy Institutes - Faculty & Sex Therapy SupervisorInstitute for Sexuality Education & Enlightenment - Sex Therapy SupervisorTherapist Certification Association - Listed ProfessionalPineapple Support - Approved ProviderPsychology Today - Verified ProviderMindSpa Integrative Wellness Center - Clinical Team Member

Frequently asked questions

Curious about therapy? Start here.

Beginning therapy, especially around sex, intimacy, and relationships, can bring up a lot of questions. Here are some of the things people often want to know before reaching out.

What exactly is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is talk therapy with a mental health professional who has specialized training in sexuality and relationships. It is entirely conversation-based. There are no physical examinations, nudity, sexual contact, or touching of any kind. Together, we explore what may be getting in the way of the intimacy, connection, or sexual well-being you want. I offer insight, education, and practical tools tailored to your specific concerns.
Is there ever any physical contact, nudity, or demonstration?
No. Sex therapy is entirely conversation-based and professional. There is never any sexual contact, nudity, touching, or physical demonstration in a therapy session. This is an absolute ethical boundary.
Do I need to be in a relationship to come to therapy?
Not at all. I work with individuals as well as couples. Many of the concerns people bring to therapy are deeply personal: confidence, desire, body image, shame, past experiences, sexual identity, anxiety, or questions about what they want from relationships and intimacy. You do not need to be partnered to explore any of these things.
What kinds of concerns do you help with?
I work with a wide range of concerns related to sexuality, intimacy, relationships, and emotional well-being. These may include desire differences, arousal and orgasm concerns, pain during sex, erectile concerns, performance anxiety, compulsive or out-of-control sexual behavior, infidelity and trust recovery, communication and conflict, life and medical transitions, LGBTQ+ identity and relationships, non-monogamy, sexual trauma, and the shame or uncertainty that can accompany these experiences.
Is therapy a judgment-free space for LGBTQ+ and non-monogamous clients?
Absolutely. My practice is affirming and inclusive. I work with people across diverse identities, relationship structures, and expressions of sexuality, including LGBTQ+ clients, people exploring identity, and individuals and couples practicing consensual non-monogamy. My role is not to tell you what your relationships or sexuality should look like. It is to help you understand yourself, communicate more honestly, and create relationships and intimate experiences that are aligned with who you are.
Is what I share confidential?
Yes. Therapy sessions are private and confidential, protected by law and professional ethics, with the limited exceptions required of licensed therapists, such as certain imminent safety concerns. This is a space where you can talk honestly about the parts of your life that may be difficult, confusing, or hard to say out loud anywhere else.
What happens in a first session?
The first step is getting to know each other. You can share what brought you to therapy and what you are hoping for. I will listen, ask questions, and explain how I might approach your concerns. There is no pressure and no script. It is an opportunity for us to have an honest conversation and determine whether I may be the right therapist for you.
Do you offer virtual sessions or only in-person therapy?
Both. I see clients in person at MindSpa Integrative Wellness Center in Sarasota and offer secure virtual sessions to clients throughout Florida and Connecticut. Many clients choose to combine in-person and virtual sessions based on their needs and schedules.
Where is your office?
My Sarasota office is located at MindSpa Integrative Wellness Center at 5632 Bee Ridge Road. The setting is calm, private, and easy to access, with convenient parking.
How long does therapy usually take?
There is no one-size-fits-all timeline. The length of therapy depends on what you are working on, your goals, and the kind of change you are seeking. Some people seek focused support around a specific concern, while others benefit from a longer process of exploration and growth. Your therapy is tailored to your needs rather than designed as an open-ended commitment.
What approaches do you use?
My work is integrative, relational, and holistic. I draw from Attachment-Based Therapy, Differentiation-Based Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and somatic approaches. I also consider the whole person: mind, body, and spirit. I use these approaches flexibly, tailoring therapy to you rather than trying to fit you into a particular model.
What are attachment and differentiation work?
Attachment work explores the ways our early experiences and relationships can shape how we connect, seek closeness, protect ourselves, communicate, and respond to disconnection. Differentiation work focuses on developing a stronger sense of self while remaining connected to the people you love. Together, we explore how to stay grounded in your own values, emotions, and needs without losing yourself in a relationship or having to disconnect from others to feel secure.
What is somatic therapy?
Somatic therapy brings attention to the connection between your mind, emotions, and body. Our bodies often respond to experiences before we have words for what is happening. By learning to notice sensations, emotions, impulses, and patterns of activation, you can develop greater self-awareness and a deeper capacity for regulation and connection. Somatic work may be especially helpful when concerns involve trauma, anxiety, sexuality, body image, intimacy, or feeling disconnected from your body.
What does holistic therapy mean?
Holistic therapy means looking at the whole person rather than separating emotional well-being from the rest of your life. My work considers the interconnected relationship between mind, body, spirit, sexuality, relationships, and the experiences that have shaped you. This does not mean that every session addresses every part of your life. It means we consider the whole picture when understanding what you are experiencing and what may help.
What are your credentials?
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor, and a clinical sexologist. I also teach and supervise therapists developing expertise in sexuality, relationships, and sex therapy.
What is the difference between sex therapy and coaching?
Sex therapy is psychotherapy provided by a licensed mental health professional with specialized training in sexuality. That means therapy can address not only goals and behaviors, but also the emotional, relational, psychological, and trauma-related experiences that may be influencing your sexuality and relationships. This deeper clinical perspective can be an important part of creating meaningful and lasting change.
Do you take insurance?
Please reach out to learn more about current fees and payment options. I can also provide information about superbills for clients who may seek out-of-network reimbursement from their insurance plan. My goal is to make the financial aspects of therapy as clear and straightforward as possible.
How do I get started?
Begin with a free, confidential consultation. It is a short, relaxed conversation to talk about what is bringing you here, ask any initial questions, and see whether we may be a good fit. There is no pressure and no obligation to begin therapy.

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